Positive Self Improvement and Motivation

Of the many questions you ask yourself every day, one question is by far more important than all of the rest put together. It is a powerful question that will bring clarity, motivation and purpose to your whole existence.

The question is simply this: What do I want from life Providing a clear, precise answer brings total focus to your life.. But very few people can. Why

I meet many people through my professional and social lives and what amazes me is that very few of them can answer this question. Most of them answer in abstract terms, such as:

I want money. Lots of money. I want to be happy I want a beautiful house I want a sports car I just want to meet someone, fall in love and settle down I DON'T REALLY KNOW

Amazingly, the last one is the most common. And the problem with all of the above answers is that they aren't really answers at all. Because none of them give a specific, precise answer.

Just why do so few people know precisely what they want from life There are a number of reasons, here's just 3 of the more common:

Number one on our list is FEAR. To know precisely what you want out of life means you have to go and get it. You have to take action, make changes and work hard to manifest your desires into reality. You cant hide behind abstracts any longer. This stark truth and the changes needed can be frightening. But you must see the whole process of getting what you want as enjoyable and rewarding and not as a threat. Next on our list is HARD WORK. Identifying exactly what you want from life requires quite a bit of effort. And of course, if you want to achieve your goals, you have to work hard by investing time and toil every day. Many people simply arent prepared to put in a significant effort to get what they want. Are you

The last reason is MINDSET. The vast majority of people have the mindset that life is something that happens to them. I call this bumbling and it is why people cannot provide a precise answer to our question and answer with abstracts instead. Fate, kismet, what happens, happens are the core beliefs here. But to get what you want, you have to make things happen in your life. This is living by design and it is important to have this core belief if you are to achieve your objectives.

So schedule at least half an hour each day to think about what, exactly, you want from life. Don't let fear be your guide in this. Take the time and write down EXACT objectives. For example:

If you want a house, specify the type, the location, the price, features, number of rooms etc. If you want a car, what make, what model What color Specification If you want to meet someone to start a relationship, how will they look Blond Dark Tall Personality type Shy, extrovert, strong When it comes to money, how much do you want How much will you need to help you get what you want

Get the idea The more detail you can provide the better. If you cannot provide detailed, specific answers to the question, you will be more likely to bumble through life HOPING to get what you want instead of CREATING AND ATTRACTING what you want.

Of course, there's nothing wrong with bumbling - unless you want to live an empowered life!

Time for me to sign off, but before I go, let me leave you with this:

Most people are on a journey to nowhere in particular and are shocked when they eventually realize they've arrived there.

It's your life. Think about it!

Author Christopher Green

Over half of all adults identify themselves as shy. Shyness can get in the way of developing personal relationships and professional aspirations.

Some people are afraid to simply walk into a room and surround themselves with strangers. Some shy people hate eating in front of others and some hate parties or other types of social occasions.

The fact is that there are many ways to beat shyness if you have the desire and the willpower.

Shyness is more common than most people realize. Shy people are not necessarily introverts, some are extroverts who happen to be shy.

If shyness is keeping you from advancing in your career or maintaining personal relationships, there are various ways to beat shyness and become the outgoing person you would like to be.

1.-- Realizing that shyness is a problem for you is the first step in overcoming it. List your good qualities and enjoy the fact that you have many good points that can help you overcome your shyness problem.

Pick one thing you'd like to change about yourself and focus on that one thing until you succeed in making positive changes.

Systematically dealing with one issue at a time will help you become the person you want to be and overcome your shyness.

2.-- Each day identify one thing you can do to help yourself overcome shyness. It can be a simple thing like making eye contact with the clerk at your local grocery store or striking up a conversation with a stranger on the bus.

You do not have to execute your plan perfectly every day. Just continue to take baby steps and reward yourself along the way for each obstacle you overcome.

3.-- Sometimes its not really shyness that is the problem. Occasionally a lack of social skills lead people to believe they are shy when in reality they just do not have the tools and knowledge to develop appropriate social behaviors.

If a lack of social skills is keeping your self-esteem low and making your life miserable, search for one of the many sources of information that are designed to help you develop your social skills and overcome shyness.

There are many informative publications that deal with these issues and you may find just the right tips on ways to beat shyness that will allow you to alleviate your social discomfort, expand your circle of friends, and support professional advancement.

4.-- There are numerous ways to beat shyness and not every suggestion or idea will work for everyone. Find the tools that are the most helpful to you personally and use these tools to the best of your ability.

Overcoming shyness will not happen instantly or overnight. It takes perseverance and a desire to succeed if you truly want to overcome shyness and learn to interact easily and naturally with other people.

Shyness often causes a person to withdraw from society altogether. Do not let shyness rule your life. Start slowly and make small changes each step of the way.

You will be able to see your progress with each negative personality trait you change into a positive one. Soon enough all the effort you put into changing your life will become evident to not only you, but to all those around you.